Thursday, July 16, 2015

When You Got A Good Friend

No you don't need talk-time hours to build friendships. You don't need to be someone else to be friends with someone. You don't need to be in the same place to sustain your friendships. All you need is an intention.

I have to admit that I have been very lucky in this department. I have a set of wonderful friends and I treasure them a lot. My friendships have endured distances, languages, time, age, misunderstandings and what not.  I have changed locations, cities and countries but the friendships stayed on.

I don't live tweet my life with any of my friends and yet it has never been difficult reconnecting.
The other day when Jaimin sent me this email after two months out of the blue it brought a smile to my face. It was a busy workday and his mail popped up with no greetings. It just made me realize how random our friendship is (I will write my thoughts about what he has mentioned later...) : 

I thought a lot about it and all my friends are like that. They just reach out whenever they are thinking of me. I guess that's what make them special. When we talk after a gap of bazillion years it is seamless. Mostly.  I have had those 2 am conversations, the hurried coffee breaks, meeting for Mai-Tai's, 10 PM whatsapp conversations, On and off Skype calls, ten minute meetings and it always felt real.

I have made a lot of new friends along the way. Frankly, I am not sure at what point your new friends are counted as your regular friends. I guess it works differently for everyone.

Coming back to what Jaimin emailed about celebrating progress. I quite agree with him. The end goal is the penultimate destination. The journey in-between is full of  milestones that we set for ourselves. I think that we should celebrate those little successes because it is the journey that matters. I think achieving those small goals/ milestones is what keeps us motivated to work towards the final goal. In my experience, the final goal is just an illusion and it keeps shifting because as humans we are ambitious and aspirational. We keep aspiring for realistic and non-realistic goals.

Enough said. I need coffee.

P.S: The post title is a song by Eric Clapton. Listen to it, you will enjoy your 5 minutes..


  1. I always wonder how one can write such amazing blogs. Your blogs are full of life :) whenever I read your blogs, it feels as if I am reading your life :) :)

    Just a ping and then hours of chat.....that's what friendship is all about. Lets cherish the bond...

    1. @Jai - C'mon.. you know how I struggle to write here most days.
      Yes, I agree and like that randomness of just chatting for hours .. :)

  2. I've had friends I've known for decades and after a few years its funny how our thoughts sync up. Like you can tell what the other is thinking. Surprisingly though (or not) my best friends are my family. I often feel I'd rather hang out with them than anyone else at all.

    Celebrating the milestones makes sense to me. My end goals are always morphing and if I waited till I achieved those, I'd have hardly anything to celebrate.

    P.S. I love that song!

    1. You are so right in saying how we like hanging out with friends. After relocating 6 times in the last 9-10 years my friends are the ones who know everything!

      The song is nice. Isn't it? Love love love Eric Clapton... He talks about people and emotions of a common man.. :)

  3. I say yes to all the above.. Jai's mail and to your thoughts! the 2am chats, the come down now, I need to talk calls early in the mornings.. I can relate to it all!

    1. Pins & Ashes: I guess it is our age doing that magic :)