Sunday, November 16, 2014

...Disconnect. Alone. Recuperate. Re-bounce

I have a friend whose only problem in life is the fear of being alone, methinks.
We have known each other for a while now and even before we started talking I knew things about him.

He is always looking for a replacement - In love/friendship/ general behavior maybe?. I must say whatever little I have known him this has always been the case -  Having "backup's". It is not appropriate for me to be judgmental but I feel very strongly about it.
As soon as the relationship gets dodgy/ shaky/ difficult with someone he starts trying his luck. This has been going for a while and I have been observing. I feel nothing but sorry for him.
I don't know how that works for him but a replacement relationship well is ...

I know that being alone is a scary thought. Some of us are not wired to handle loneliness. We  want to be always in a "forever" situation. We feel secured and comforted. I agree with all that but then I think sometimes it is for the best. Every relationship goes through phases and if the chips are down you don't start hunting for the replacement.  I know what you are thinking - Maybe it is not worth fighting for..  I think it is a very valid point.

I am not a relationship expert I can't even handle mine and that's not why I am here.
I am here to express that being alone is not as bad as we think it is. There is so much out there to experience. Sometimes it just means that you have less problems, less people to answer to and endless experiences waiting for you.  It is an opportunity to learn more, read more, understand more and know more. I think it makes us stronger.

They say practice what you preach. So on that note I am taking the day off tomorrow. I haven't done this in a while. I am quite excited. I can't wait to spend an entire day with no plans and just chilling..
I am in a difficult situation at the moment  and need some time off to recollect, rejuvenate and recuperate.

I will blog about my Happy Monday tomorrow. Tonight I am just going to feel happy about being alone tomorrow.


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